Men I’ve Had Sex With, from S to U
When I first started going to the sauna about ten years ago I met a guy from Singapore called Ong. We fucked, then we went out for dinner to one of those Vietnamese places on Kingsland Road. I thought that’s how it might always be, and that’s how I’ve tried to make it, to make … Read more
Men I’ve Had Sex With, from M to S
We met because we live 827 metres from each other; that’s what Grindr tells us. And even though he isn’t the type I usually go for – he’s short and stocky – we meet regularly, almost once a week. We started having sex a in April or May and from then onwards Cheng has fucked … Read more
Men I’ve Had Sex With, from G to L
One guy from The Gambia still owes me £5. It’s been about fifteen years since I lent him the money, but I haven’t seen him since. We had a good time together. He kept calling me his African brother, which I kind of liked, even though he was trying to be funny, as in: how … Read more
Men I’ve Had Sex With, from A to F
When I was in Australia a few years ago I had sex with a guy in the sauna who was convinced his birth-mother (or father) was Aboriginal. But he could have been Greek or Lebanese. He was very into queer movies and while I was fucking him he quoted whole scenes from a movie made … Read more
Eroticising Homophobic Bullying
To what extend has your desire shaped your body? How much do you work out so that you can 1) have the kind of body you’ve always fantasised about, and/or 2) have the kind of body that others will desire? What have you done to your body to make you attractive to others? Dieted? Pumped … Read more
One Jerks Off While the Other Sews
In 2009 Masanobu Sato masturbated for just under 10 hours, and so became the world record holder in the men’s division of the Masturbate-a-thon in San Francisco. Masanobu trains for it. He swims, he eats well, he spends quite a bit of time at home in front of the TV watching the news or porn … Read more
Being Inside (The Weeks of Nada)
I’ve been busy. Let’s just say I’ve been in a place where sex was not an option. Masturbation – yes; and a lot of that was done, so much so that I have started to think maybe I could spend the rest of my life having phone sex, coming up with various scenarios and talking … Read more
Rugby Guys Watch Porn
We come home from rugby practice, you, me, and a couple of mates. It’s your house and you said there’d be beers in the fridge and there are so we put on some porn and make ourselves at home in the living room. You and me on the sofa – Terry and Brian on an … Read more
Men Who Can’t Kiss
Everything depends on the way they kiss. The first touch of their lips against yours, the way their tongue fits in your mouth, where they put their hands. We remember the ones who cannot kiss. The lips that are too eager or hesitant, the tongue that invades or lolls or retreats into the mouth like … Read more
